Rarely anyone explores its origin but surely all know how it makes them feel and act!
In one’s daily lives, numerous events can disrupt the bearing of their inner compass. Whether it is a conflict involving family, friends or colleagues, being late on a schedule, troubling news in media, or a chaos at a traffic light. Most often fail to realize how ineffective they have become by living an unexamined life.
Like any other emotion, anger arises from moods and feelings, which are a product of a thought and thought is deeply rooted with the mind, the ego. Can see how mood shifts when ones expectations are unmet (sadness), met (joy) or when another person’s behaviour is aligned (happiness) or not aligned (turmoil) with ones expectations. Ultimately, all these experiences and events converge into an estuary called anger, origination from mountain of hope and expectations.
If one takes a pause and reflect on their lives through lens of clarity, he will see that his attachment to labels like good bad, right wrong are nothing more than an ego driven pursuit to validate his identities and concepts which he has adopted since young age. The more attention one gives to these attachments, a thought which originally occurred as a mere feeling turns to an emotion of anger and intensifies. He then becomes a marionette to his attachments or others action and begins to operates from stand point of anger. Please introspect.
One’s Ego identity and beliefs, shaped by expectations, play a crucial role in ones perception of anger. Anger often causes people to react without clarity and in harmful ways. One can pursue his journey with anger or with understanding, path might be same but results will surely be different. Read that again.
Rarely anyone explores the origin of it and master it. External trigger is all it takes to bring the suppression alive. Simply asking someone ‘not to get angry’ is just being naive.
Simply put, any anger one experiences stems from their expectations—of how life has been, how it should be, or how others should respond—along with past regrets and choices that subtly remain alive in one’s subconscious. There is no other reason.
More often than not, it is the guilt that follows anger compels one to act in certain ways. Way of apology or indulge in some act of kindness, especially when family, friends or kids are involved, as the mind craves to be guilt free! Truth is, if humans were not guilty about getting angry, they would not care much about their anger issues.
When one hands over control of their lives to someone else, to an idea, philosophy or an identity, he begins to live in blind faith, false hope and constant anticipation. This path brings only despair and regret. It is only by understanding of this truth, one can start living an examined life and move forward with effectiveness, else he shall continue to ride the waves of anger without a rudder.
